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Mirror, Mirror On The Wall

3 Dec

It’s a rainy and unusually slow day at work for me in New York so I decided to blow the dust off my blog here and actually make an entry.  The funny thing is the thing that led me to this entry is something I blogged about last January.  It’s basically about how self centered people are on social media, and, how sofasomeone I once thought was great and even admired lost much of her appeal after reading her Facebook page and her blog droning on and on about “her”.  And, admittedly, yes, Facebook and blogs are a place to share your thoughts and happenings with your friends and online friends.  The thing about this person is that she was kind of in the limelight for a brief spell, and, she continues to harp on the subjects of the past – old boyfriends, ex husband, things that happened 20 years ago or even longer ago.  She rarely mentions what’s happening now (other than to promote her business, which, frankly, is pretty crappy, but, she’s managing to make a living at it, so more power to her.)

Anyhow, as I said, today has been usually slow so I did resort to going through Facebook, and, just for the heck of it, I went to this person’s page.  Almost a year later and nothing has changed.  It’s all about her, and, the point I’m trying to make here is I’m kicking myself for ever thinking this person was worth being friends with and that I thought she had some really cool things going on in her life.  At one time it was true, but, not now.  And, it just makes me so grateful that I’m not going down that same path.

The one thing Gary (my lovable husband) does is keep me focused on the here and now, and, the future.  He always tells me we can’t change the past, and, there is no point in dwelling on what we can’t change.  And, he’s right.  After all this past year we bought a summer/weekend house in the Hamptons, we’re taking two W991569-3ONDERFUL vacations this year. (Meaning 2015) – we’re going back to Paris to finish a vacation that was interrupted, and, then we’re heading to Germany for an entire month.  So lots of things to look forward to including Christmas which I can’t believe is almost here.

I mean, honestly, where did this year go?  It’s December 3rd!  And, we were going to go to the Rockefeller Center tree lighting tonight, but, there weather doesn’t seem to be clearing up as the weatherman was saying, so, we’re going with Plan B, and, having friends over to our place to watch the lighting, and, we’re making a small party of out it.  And, that’s one thing that this person I’m referring to never does – she never discusses what’s happening now or how she turned something that was a bit of a downer into something more positive, and, I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m growing up, and, you know what?  I like it! 😀  And, I am so happy just to be me, and, have a life worth writing about in the moment instead of harping on things from my past.

The lying, cheating jerk part 2

15 Oct

????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????Hmmmm.  I seem to be bad at keeping up with my blog lately.   Shame on me!  And, while I admit the mood to write in my blog only seems to hit when it is raining out, I need to be just a bit more consistent with my posts.  And, as I signed in today, I checked my stats, as I always do when I sign on, and, without failure one post above all others continues to get hit after hit.  It’s my post: the lying, cheat jerk: https://thenerdymodel.wordpress.com/2012/04/27/the-lying-cheating-jerk/

I don’t know about you, but, I find this fact rather depressing.  That means there has to be an awful lot of iinfidelity going on in the world. 

As for my friend in the original post, she has since moved on from that creep, and, I do mean creep, and, has a wonderful career blossoming, more dates than she can accept, and, pretty much living a dream life.  As for the sorry piece of dirty she was so desperate to shake off, he’s still doing the same things…  Eating bad (with a serious heart problem and diabetes), sucking the rest of us dry by being on disability, and, apparently still thinking he’s a kid because all his photos are of theme parks and choo choo trains.  EESSSHHH.  This guy is now over 50.

And, yes ladies this cartoon is a close facsimile of “Fred”and I know you’re all DYING to get his contact information, but, I’m sorry, I will not allow another living sole be  stuck with this horrible, I mean, wonderful man.  Which leads back to the question.  How do these guys find us?  And more importantly don’t they own a mirror and have a conscious?  There is a solid reason that guys like this don’t get girls like me friend, and, all it takes is one good reality check.  The problem is… They never do!

The lying, cheating jerk…

27 Apr

I know that some of you reading the title might be panicking that Gary is the lying, cheating jerk.  Thankfully, this is not about Gary.  He is still the most wonderful guy I’ve ever met, and, I cannot wait to be his wife.  We’re just 1 month away until our wedding — but, I digress— back to the main subject of this post…

It came to my attention that someone who has been pursuing someone I consider a friend,  has turned out to be a lying, cheating jerk…  I just have to write about it to get it off my chest because I feel like I’m going to explode.

Now, you have to keep in mind that my friend never had a romantic interest in this man.  She went on maybe two dates with him, and, tried to let him down easy each time.  He just didn’t get it, and, he continued to pursue her.  So, she tried playing it the other way, and, tried to get to close him by telling him she wanted to marry him.  That scared him.  Sort of…  He would come back and then leave ridiculously stupid emails saying “Sorry this will never work.”

Finally, out of desperation to get rid of this guy, my friend confronted this man and asked him if there was someone else.  The answer was “yes”.  She thought she was finally rid of him.  WRONG.

He tried to play the friendship card with my friend.  She’s just too nice and too much of a lady to tell him otherwise, so, she thought this is where this rather odd relationship was going end up.  Friends.

Wrong again.  Once again he tried to pursue her, told her that he still loved her…  And this time it turns out the rat is ENGAGED to the other woman.

I’m not pissed that he hurt my friend.  Because he didn’t.  She didn’t want him.  She never did.  What pisses me off is that he is still lying to my friend’s face totally unaware that his Facebook page is totally public, and, it’s there in plain daylight for anyone to see the status of his relationship with this other woman.

My friend confronted this guy last night and asked if the woman he is engaged to knows about about her.  The answer he gave was “no”.  He then continued the lie and said his daughter only met the woman he is going to marry twice.  Really?  Does he really think my friend is dumb enough to believe him?  And, here’s the kicker.  He’s telling my friend the engagement is off and that he has the ring in the car — WRONG!  Once again a simple visit to his Facebook page shows that the SOB is lying yet again.

I want so badly to get in touch with the woman this man is going to marry, but, as my friends have pointed out.  It isn’t my place.  It isn’t as though my friend is or ever was seriously interested in getting together with this guy.  It just pisses me off that he is such an F*ing liar — and who knows how many more women this nut is doing this same thing to or with….

And trust me when I say this guy is nothing special.  Average in height, average in looks — and gainfully unemployed.  Oh wait, I forgot… On disability…  A real catch, isn’t he ladies?  Not to mention he is about as dependable as a used diaper.

I am soooo tempted to post his Facebook page, but,  I won’t… I might be blonde, but, I’m not a dumb one.  But, I will say if your name is Deb and you are engaged to a guy named Fred, and you live in NJ, I’d be asking a ton of questions if I were you and reading this blog…

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