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Mirror, Mirror On The Wall

3 Dec

It’s a rainy and unusually slow day at work for me in New York so I decided to blow the dust off my blog here and actually make an entry.  The funny thing is the thing that led me to this entry is something I blogged about last January.  It’s basically about how self centered people are on social media, and, how sofasomeone I once thought was great and even admired lost much of her appeal after reading her Facebook page and her blog droning on and on about “her”.  And, admittedly, yes, Facebook and blogs are a place to share your thoughts and happenings with your friends and online friends.  The thing about this person is that she was kind of in the limelight for a brief spell, and, she continues to harp on the subjects of the past – old boyfriends, ex husband, things that happened 20 years ago or even longer ago.  She rarely mentions what’s happening now (other than to promote her business, which, frankly, is pretty crappy, but, she’s managing to make a living at it, so more power to her.)

Anyhow, as I said, today has been usually slow so I did resort to going through Facebook, and, just for the heck of it, I went to this person’s page.  Almost a year later and nothing has changed.  It’s all about her, and, the point I’m trying to make here is I’m kicking myself for ever thinking this person was worth being friends with and that I thought she had some really cool things going on in her life.  At one time it was true, but, not now.  And, it just makes me so grateful that I’m not going down that same path.

The one thing Gary (my lovable husband) does is keep me focused on the here and now, and, the future.  He always tells me we can’t change the past, and, there is no point in dwelling on what we can’t change.  And, he’s right.  After all this past year we bought a summer/weekend house in the Hamptons, we’re taking two W991569-3ONDERFUL vacations this year. (Meaning 2015) – we’re going back to Paris to finish a vacation that was interrupted, and, then we’re heading to Germany for an entire month.  So lots of things to look forward to including Christmas which I can’t believe is almost here.

I mean, honestly, where did this year go?  It’s December 3rd!  And, we were going to go to the Rockefeller Center tree lighting tonight, but, there weather doesn’t seem to be clearing up as the weatherman was saying, so, we’re going with Plan B, and, having friends over to our place to watch the lighting, and, we’re making a small party of out it.  And, that’s one thing that this person I’m referring to never does – she never discusses what’s happening now or how she turned something that was a bit of a downer into something more positive, and, I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m growing up, and, you know what?  I like it! 😀  And, I am so happy just to be me, and, have a life worth writing about in the moment instead of harping on things from my past.

You ain’t got no class

3 Jan

Being “trapped” last night and probably this morning due to the major snow event last night (Jan 2 2014) in NYC, I spent a good part of the evening catching up on Facebook posts and other social media.   And, it only led me to believe that my last blog post on December 17th was absolutely correct – the more self-centered people are on social media, the less interesting they become and in fact shows utter lack of class on their part.

Clipart credit: fbadventures.wordpress.com

Clipart credit: fbadventures.wordpress.com

I’m not dumb enough to slander anyone by naming names, but, there are a few people out there who simply don’t understand that posting certain information or photos just isn’t right.  By posting a photo giving the finger or calling someone names or to continually write about how fabulous you are is a total turn-off and this applies to both men and women.  And, frankly, I “unfriended” and stopped “following” at least a dozen people on Facebook last night.  A few remain on the borderline and we’ll see how it goes.  In all instances the people I dropped were not friends, not even Facebook friends — in the sense that they never commented or tried to contact me or in any way offer any type of interest in what was going on other than in their own very small worlds and minds.

Granted this is no loss.  Certainly not to me, but, I find it amazing how people friend and follow people of this nature.  Perhaps they “ain’t got no class” themselves and perhaps this does classify me as a snob, but, I’d much rather be a snob with manners, who knows their place, and, who can discuss things and issues other than myself than to be a self-centered, small minded… Idiot.  Sorry that’s harsh but it is the only word that fits.  And, I realize that my writing this blog entry may cause a backlash again me, but, the difference is I know that it is a real possibility and the other difference is that I realize you are entitled to your own opinion (just as I am entitled to mine.)  The people I am referring to in this entry will think their opinions are the only right opinions and will never see or understand the difference I am trying to get across or why I dropped them as Facebook “friends”.

Observation: Maybe it IS you

17 Dec

Having been in the public eye for a while now, and, having had the experience of being a model, now being a business woman and a writer — I’ve been studying (rather unintentionally) humans and what draws people to some and not to others, and, why some people have staying power and others are merely a flash in the pan.  The answer seems to be rather simple — the more self-involved you are — the less interesting you are to those around you.

Maybe it IS you

Maybe it IS you

Think about it.  How many times a day do you go on Twitter or Facebook or other social media to let everyone know what “you” are doing.  “I went to the grocery store” or “I can’t stand the guy in the next cubical at work” or “Why isn’t anyone paying attention to me” or “My kids are wonderful” or “My husband is working late.”  Sound familiar?

Case in point.  Two people I know. Well known.  In the public eye.  One only writes about what she is doing.  What is going on in her life. Posts photos of herself.  And it’s all about her.

The other person is more rounded.  She talks about what is happening in her life but she also tells about other things happening around her.  It isn’t all about her.

The moral of the story?  The person who is less self centered, who doesn’t just post her own photos and what is happening with her, and, shares her concerns of people and things around her and how they are affecting us is by far the more interesting read.

The proof?  The person who is self centered has a small following and it is dwindling.  The other has a large following and more people follow her every day.

Just a thought for the day!  And, no I am not writing about myself! 😀

 

Be forewarned

14 Aug

I don’t know who created that page of filth on Facebook under my name but please be assured it wasn’t me. My password has now been changed, and, I have reported the incident to Facebook. Let them deal with the low life that thinks it’s ok to use someone else’s name and photos for their gain. And, when I get your information from Facebook you can expect a nice little lawsuit from me!!!

The lying, cheating jerk…

27 Apr

I know that some of you reading the title might be panicking that Gary is the lying, cheating jerk.  Thankfully, this is not about Gary.  He is still the most wonderful guy I’ve ever met, and, I cannot wait to be his wife.  We’re just 1 month away until our wedding — but, I digress— back to the main subject of this post…

It came to my attention that someone who has been pursuing someone I consider a friend,  has turned out to be a lying, cheating jerk…  I just have to write about it to get it off my chest because I feel like I’m going to explode.

Now, you have to keep in mind that my friend never had a romantic interest in this man.  She went on maybe two dates with him, and, tried to let him down easy each time.  He just didn’t get it, and, he continued to pursue her.  So, she tried playing it the other way, and, tried to get to close him by telling him she wanted to marry him.  That scared him.  Sort of…  He would come back and then leave ridiculously stupid emails saying “Sorry this will never work.”

Finally, out of desperation to get rid of this guy, my friend confronted this man and asked him if there was someone else.  The answer was “yes”.  She thought she was finally rid of him.  WRONG.

He tried to play the friendship card with my friend.  She’s just too nice and too much of a lady to tell him otherwise, so, she thought this is where this rather odd relationship was going end up.  Friends.

Wrong again.  Once again he tried to pursue her, told her that he still loved her…  And this time it turns out the rat is ENGAGED to the other woman.

I’m not pissed that he hurt my friend.  Because he didn’t.  She didn’t want him.  She never did.  What pisses me off is that he is still lying to my friend’s face totally unaware that his Facebook page is totally public, and, it’s there in plain daylight for anyone to see the status of his relationship with this other woman.

My friend confronted this guy last night and asked if the woman he is engaged to knows about about her.  The answer he gave was “no”.  He then continued the lie and said his daughter only met the woman he is going to marry twice.  Really?  Does he really think my friend is dumb enough to believe him?  And, here’s the kicker.  He’s telling my friend the engagement is off and that he has the ring in the car — WRONG!  Once again a simple visit to his Facebook page shows that the SOB is lying yet again.

I want so badly to get in touch with the woman this man is going to marry, but, as my friends have pointed out.  It isn’t my place.  It isn’t as though my friend is or ever was seriously interested in getting together with this guy.  It just pisses me off that he is such an F*ing liar — and who knows how many more women this nut is doing this same thing to or with….

And trust me when I say this guy is nothing special.  Average in height, average in looks — and gainfully unemployed.  Oh wait, I forgot… On disability…  A real catch, isn’t he ladies?  Not to mention he is about as dependable as a used diaper.

I am soooo tempted to post his Facebook page, but,  I won’t… I might be blonde, but, I’m not a dumb one.  But, I will say if your name is Deb and you are engaged to a guy named Fred, and you live in NJ, I’d be asking a ton of questions if I were you and reading this blog…

It’s the end of the year? ALREADY?!?

19 Dec

Geez, I hate to sound like an 80 year old, but, where did the time go?  This year absolutely flew by — I can’t believe Christmas is this weekend!!  Fortunately, I’m done shopping, my family is flying to NYC to see and my future hubby, and, the only thing I have to do is get the apartment  “Mom Inspection” clean, and, of course, start cooking for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.

I’m also thrilled that my KIVA team is just $50 of hitting our 2011 goal.  Ok, sure I did aim low this year because I formed the team so late in the year — it was almost July, nonetheless, at least we’re going to make the goal that I set so that is  wonderful all in itself.  It also makes the holiday season matter that much more — for the first time in my life I feel like I’m actually doing something real to help others who just need a helping hand up.  (And, KIVA allows people do just that – it’s a wonderful organization, and, I am proud to be part of it!)  If the giving mood happens to strike you while you’re reading this take a moment to join my team and donate to my team’s goal.  Here is the link:  http://www.kiva.org/team/rosegoodhallteamfashion  and hey that’s kind of neat… I just saw that I have 57 “recommends” for Facebook on my Kiva page — thanks for your support guys!!

As far as wedding news…  Well, I had a bit of a heartbreak today… No, no, it isn’t what you’re probably thinking.  Gary and I are still very much “on”.  No, this heartache is all due a wedding venue that I didn’t know was available until today…

It seems that Cunard is now offering weddings at sea… My heart dropped when I read this article this morning:  http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/1YPBrR

If I had only known sooner…

And, so with that my dear friends, family, fans and readers, I would like to take this opportunity to wish everyone a safe and wonderful holiday season, and, may all your dreams come true for you in 2012.  I thank each and everyone of you for being in my life – I love you all!

Happy Holidays!

 

Totally unrelated thoughts….

29 Nov

Did you ever have a day when just about everything goes wrong?  Today was one of those days for me… Nothing major went wrong, but, just a bunch of small stuff that added up to one big headache…

I had my parents and brothers visiting over Thanksgiving weekend, and, of course, my Mom accidentally left her glasses “somewhere” at my house.   I’ve been looking since Sunday morning, and, finally this morning I found them… In the freezer.  I’m not going to ask — but, as of right now, they are on their way back to Chicago to their rightful owner.   It doesn’t sound so bad, but, when you realize I spent 1.5 just trying to get the darn things sent out at the post office, you can understand my frustration — especially after you learn that I was sent to the back of the line because I didn’t have the zip code on my return receipt.  (You know the one you get to keep for your records and doesn’t mean anything to anyone else.)  Well the a$$ that waited on me couldn’t hand me a pen to fill it in – nope I was banished to back of the line.   I won’t tell you what I called the guy under my breathe but I would have made any sailor proud!

After that little aggravation, I went on a couple of “go-sees” (which is modeling lingo for going to see people about various jobs for photo shoots or runway jobs.)  One person was 30 minutes late.  One person never showed up at all – without so much as a call to my agency to either cancel or reschedule the casting.

I get home only to find out that my fiancee has to add a few more people to our already complicated seating chart for our wedding in the Spring…

And, then I get the brilliant idea of going on Facebook to escape the world for a while.  That was a mistake… I found one rather rude post from someone with nothing better to do than attack me, so, this person has been banned and removed from my Facebook life.  But, it’s just annoying to think that people “hide” behind a computer and write mean, cruel things they never would have the guts to tell you in person.

To cap off the day, I received a phone call from my travel agent to let me know that the hotel we wanted for our honeymoon is going to be undergoing renovations, and, now we have to decide if we want to put up with renovations at our top choice hotel and location or go with something else.

Granted — there is nothing tragic here.  No one died, no one was hurt or fell ill, and, separately these are all problems that could be easily handled…  However, when you put it all together – – it adds up to one aggravating day.

Well enough of my moaning and groaning…

I do want to put some positive Karma in the air, and, try to end the day on a more positive note.  If you are a horse lover and have the means to spare a few extra dollars, a Facebook friend, Jacqueline Collen Tarrolly, is desperately trying to save her equine family from being torn apart.   If you can help please visit her website and take part in The Great Toadstool Farm Raffle or the Adopt a Toadstool Farm Horse program.

Good luck Jacq!

Time for new Halloween decorations

4 Oct

Well here it is Tuesday, and, I find myself with a rare day and a half off — no go sees, no fittings, no photo shoots, no casting — just 1.5 days to myself to do as I wish.  So, what do I decide to do?  Well, ok, write in my blog was the oblivious answer…  But, the real answer is I did my Fall cleaning.  (Some people do Spring cleaning, I do it twice a year and do a Fall AND Spring cleaning.)

But, I digress… I was doing my Fall cleaning, and, stumble upon some old photos, and, I put a few on my Facebook page, I sorted through clothes and made a pile of clothes I no longer wanted for Goodwill and for Dress for Success.  And, then I found my boxes of Holiday stuff — everything from Halloween to Christmas to Valentine’s Day and beyond… I swear I could open my own party store I have so much junk!

Anyhow, my Halloween decorations are looking a bit sad.  And, I figure that is how I will spend part of my day off – shopping for Halloween decorations.  I guess I’m just a big kid at heart, but, I happen to love Halloween.

Oh sure, I could get into the whole discussion about the Pagan roots of Halloween or perhaps discuss the Salem witch trials, but, I won’t…

First of all, I don’t feel like thinking that hard today, and, secondly, and, more importantly — when I get on topics that really excite me, I tend to get wordy and I get too deep into philosophical and psychological thought patterns that would probably bore the skin off the typical reader so I will spare you…

And with that I am off to get my new decorations 🙂

Ok…  Who’s going to message me first to have a discussion on this topic?!?  I have a few guesses… Let’s see if I am right!

It’s been a busy summer and fall looks just as busy

24 Sep

I know…

I’ve been a very bad girl and haven’t kept up with my blogging, but, I do have a pretty good excuse, I’ve been very busy!  Let’s see, where do I begin?

Fashion Week 2011

Fashion Week, I guess… If you’ve never been involved in Fashion Week there is no way to describe the absolute chaos that surrounds it — of course, I mean this in a positive way, but, nonetheless, it would make even the calmest person’s head spin!  You have fittings, more fittings, hair styling, and, lots of time waiting around waiting to walk down a runway for a total of roughly 40 seconds.  The upside to Fashion Week madness?  One of the designers (although I am not allowed to tell who — just someone from a major fashion house) allowed me to keep one of the garments that I wore on the runway!  And, I absolutely love this piece!  I know a lot of people assume that the models get to keep the clothing, but, in reality, it is rare, and, that is why this is such a big deal.  Especially since the retail price of this garment is in the $4500 range!

Then add in my regular modeling work, fortunately, it has been based in New York during fashion week, but, it means hours of clothes fittings, makeup, hair, and, lots of time in front of a camera getting that “perfect” shot.

The Plaza Hotel -- the location of our wedding reception

Now let’s add in my own wedding which has been tons of little headaches… One of my bridesmaid dresses was ordered in the wrong size, and, it had to be reordered.  We have a few out of town guests who would like “cheaper” accommodations, but, don’t want to stay outside of Manhattan!  Fortunately, I am working with a wonderful, extremely patient and professional travel agent who is helping me out, but, the guidelines set have made it more than challenging to find a hotel for these specific guests!  Now I know why my BFF in NYC, Elena, had such a small wedding in Australia!

Speaking of Elena, I’d like to give some shout outs…

Shout Outs

Congratulations to Elena and Paul who are now officially married in the eyes of the United States!

Congratulations to Jacqueline Collen Tarrolly on officially opening her new business (Toadstool Farm Vintage) – complete with ribbon cutting ceremony!  Very cool!

Congratulations to Tina for getting her copyright for her new book “Tharston Manor“.  I can’t wait to read it!

And, then getting back to my schedule and life… Well, then there is the matter of Gary, I make it a point to spend as much time with him as possible each day, and, we have “date” night at least once a week.

Matter of fact, we went to see “Moneyball” last night, and, I absolutely LOVED it.  I mean, I’m a baseball fan, but, I certainly don’t live for the sport, but, this is such a feel good movie, everyone — regardless if you like baseball or not — should go see it.

And, Gary’s Aunt and Uncle are coming in today for the week from California, and, we’re going to see “Anything Goes” tonight on Broadway.  I’m looking forward to it!

So that’s why I’ve been up to in a nutshell, and, that is why I’ve been such a bad girl about not blogging for so long.

Oh and one last thing — for future fashion designers….  Please be sure to follow my column on Examiner.com this coming week… I’ll be featuring a scholarship opportunity via Project Runway!

Ok… I think that’s really it this time, I promise I’ll try to blog a bit more regularly, but, if I don’t you can always catch up with me via my Fashion Column: http://www.examiner.com/fashion-in-new-york/rose-goodhall or on Facebook:  http://www.facebook.com/rosegoodhall

Thanks for reading!

I think I have dipsy-doodle-itis

15 Aug

I think I have dipsy-doodle-itis.  Well, ok maybe I don’t really want to go to Frantic City, but, it just sounds like a good way to describe how I feel today…. Kind of tired and not at all energetic.  And, wouldn’t be cool — just once — to call in sick and tell the boss that you have “dipsy-doodle-itis”.

I have to admit I do love to make people laugh, and, I was so happy when some of my friends “got it” on Facebook when I said that I thought I had dipsy-doodle-itis.  And, yes, it is real…  Well, kinda, sorta…

You see, “dipsy-doodle-itis” is a made-up disease from The Flintstones.   (I’ll pause as you call me an empty minded blonde…  Really, I’m expecting it — except from those who really know me and know my sense of humor.)

The term was used in an episode called “THE BUFFALO CONVENTION” and the story was that every member of the Water Buffalo Lodge suddenly comes down with “dipsy-doodle-itis,” which can only be cured by three days away from their wives at Frantic City–but Wilma’s Doozey dodo bird knows the truth and could spoil everything.

Anyhow — that’s my attempt at trying to make you laugh.  Hopefully I did….

The Flintstones

The Flintstones

In reality, I’ve been running my tail off visiting various design houses to be fitted for Fashion Week.  Yep, it’s that time of year already, Fashion Week will be upon us very shortly, and, I’m working with several designers this year, not just one like I did last Fall or two this past Winter.  Guess I’m moving up in the world.

And, today has been hectic, and, I just wished I could have called in to say that I wouldn’t be available today because I had “dipsy-doodle-itis”.

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