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Losing a friend to suicide over $2000

3 Nov

I am absolutely devastated at the fact that a very dear friend of mine committed suicide.  There is a saying that suicide is the most selfish act anyone can do, but, I don’t personally think that’s true.  I think suicide is the act of someone so hopeless that there isn’t a person they can turn to in the world that would actually help them.  If you disagree with me.  Here is the real scenario of my friend.

She got herself into a real financial mess, and, was living pay check to pay check.  She got behind in rent and other bills, and, owed about $2000, she was facing eviction and no place to go, she lost her job, she had no income.  She called everyone she knew, but, no one would help her, regretfully, not even me.  Had I known that $2000 would have saved her life, I would have given her that and more.

So the next time someone asks you for financial help whether it is $5 or $5000 please stop and think before you flat out turn that person down.  Would you want to see your friend or family member kill themselves for getting into debt for a lousy $2000?  Wouldn’t you do everything to help to prevent this from happening?

My grief has no boundaries right now.  I am angry at myself and I am hurt and confused, and, I have to learn to accept that I contributed to her decision that life was no longer worth living.  That she had no true friends who came through for her in her time of need.  My life is for ever changed, I will never be the same.  The lesson I learned will never leave me, and, I will never be so quick to tell someone no.

If this post changes just one persons mind besides my own then I will feel like I have done something worthwhile in telling this story.  If you are thinking about suicide please take every step not to do and call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline  1-800-273-8255 for help.

I will never be the same. Never.  My friend will live on in my mind and heart, and, may God forgive me for failing the friendship test in the worst possible manner.  I was wrong and I know it.

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Fall 2015 in NYC: What’s not to love

23 Oct

Well, yes, I’ve been a bad girl.  I haven’t kept up my New Year’s resolution to be more faithful about posting in my blog.  Shame on me, but, I do have a busy life, and, it can be hard to find the time and energy to post.  Regardless, I am going to make more of an effort.  I know I say that every single time, but, I do mean it.  I just have to execute it!

As Meg Ryan says in “You’ve Got Mail” don’t you love Fall?  Actually the exact quote is “Don’t you love New York in the Fall?”  Gary and I have so much going on from what promises to be a fantastic Halloween party at our friend Amanda Cumming‘s place to getting ready for Thanksgiving and Christmas, and, New Year’s Eve.  Oh sure, some cynic out there will say the leaves in Central Park haven’t changed yet, and, the weather’s been too warm, but, it doesn’t change what time of year it is and that’s the part to focus on.  I mean, sure, I’d love to see more explosive Fall colors in the trees and foliage, but, and, admittedly, it is a bit bizarre to see people ice skating at Rockefeller Center with short sleeve shirts but, it is such a busy and fun time of year, I don’t know why I used to hate it so much.

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Maybe things will start feeling more like Fall next weekend.  After all, what’s Halloween without the crunch, crunch, crunch of leaves as you walk on the sidewalk?  And, with the opening of the Bryant Park Holiday Village next Friday (October 30th) and the New York Marathon on Sunday, November 1st.  Maybe the weather will catch up with the calendar and things will start to feel more like true Fall.

Australia and saying so long to a dear friend

23 Jun

Yes, I’ve been a bad girl and haven’t blogged in ages, but, I did just spend a month in Australia.  My dear friend, my best friend the past several years, Elena just moved to Sydney where her husband Paul grew up.  It was a bitter sweet trip.  I could stay in Australia forever — the people are wonderful, the beautiful weather, and, clean!  It puts NYC or just about any city in the USA to shame!  Check out some of my photos from the trip!

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All good things come to an end: Downton Abbey ending after Season 6

26 Mar

No, I wish I was kidding but, it’s unfortunately true.  Downton Abbey will end after Season 6.  In all honesty, when Maggie Smith made the announcement she wouldn’t return after Season 6, I thought perhaps it might be the show’s final season — especially after the grumblings about ending the program after Season 5.  However, it’s no less depressing knowing that one of my favorite shows ever will no longer be something to look forward to on Sunday evenings.

This also reduces my television viewing to Project Runway (and it’s various off shoots like Project Runway All Stars) and a handful of cooking and PBS shows I watch. Sigh.

I miss the good old days when there were so many good shows to watch, you didn’t know how to pick just one.  Remember those days when shows like Full House and Family Matters were in prime time?

And, now we wait. Months and months. It also gives us far too much time to contemplate what’s going to happen with our favorite Downton characters.  Will Daisy leave Downton to go live with her Father-in-law and make something of herself besides an assistant cook or will there be a surprise like Alfred coming back to marry her?  Maybe Daisy will team with Patmore and they’ll do something together.  Or will Mrs. Patmore will enjoy retirement in her new cottage?  Will Tom really leave Downton for Boston?  Will Mary ever stop being so obnoxious to Edith?  Will Edith ever catch a break and find some type of happiness with a man?  And what about Ana and Mr. Bates?  Will they both be cleared of murder?  And what of Mr. Mosley and Ms. Baxter?  Are they finally going to bring their relationship into the open and declare their love?  And, how about dear Mrs. Hughes and Mr. Carson, we will actually get so see their wedding?  What about Mrs. Crawley?  Will it be Dr. Clarkson or Lord Merton or will Isobel decide to stay a widow and continue to be friend and companion to Granny?  What are the fates of Lord and Lady Grantham? Will Downton survive??

We’ll just have to see what Julian Fellows’ brilliant mind has in store for all of us.

Heading to Australia, very excited!

12 Mar

It’s with both excitement and sadness I blog today that my husband Gary and I are heading to Australia in a few weeks with our good friend Paul and Elena Harris.  The excitement is due to the fact this is the second time we’ve been invited to Australia, the first time was for their (Paul and Elena’s) wedding, but, unfortunately this trip will not have as happy of an ending as the last.  You see, Elena and Paul are moving back to Australia permanently and, short of Gary getting transferred there, I’m not sure when I’ll see Elena and Paul again.

Elena was my first real friend in New York, and, throughout the years we grew as close as sisters.  And, I know she’s only an instant message away, but, it just isn’t the same as being to see someone on a daily basis.  Of course, I am happy for them.  Elena doesn’t have any family in the United States to speak of, and, Paul’s family are all in Australia, so, I do understand their need and desire to be with them.  And, given the fact they want to start a family soon, and, knowing the horrible education system in the United States without a doubt this is the best move they can possibly make.  And, now Gary and I have an excuse to visit Australia far more frequently.  The only thing I am dreading is the incredibly long, tedious flights.

And, so I’ve been flight shopping today hoping by hope that somehow, some brilliant engineering genius found a way to cut down the travel time, but, sorry to say… No… Still no hope for a non-stop flight from New York to Sydney.  So it looks like we’ll do the Los Angeles thing for a day or two, and, get a non-stop from there.  Not that it’s a walk in the park from LA to Sydney.  Far from it — roughly 15 hours.  The only half way good news is that the flights leave late at night, so, hopefully with the aid of a sleeping pill, it will at least be tolerable.

One thing for sure — I need to see and play with koalas and roos during our visit down under.  Oh I’m sure an Aussie or two are rolling their eyes at that comment, but, for someone like it me, they’re very much a novelty!  And, I can’t just wait to go say G’day!

The lying, cheating jerk part 2

15 Oct

????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????Hmmmm.  I seem to be bad at keeping up with my blog lately.   Shame on me!  And, while I admit the mood to write in my blog only seems to hit when it is raining out, I need to be just a bit more consistent with my posts.  And, as I signed in today, I checked my stats, as I always do when I sign on, and, without failure one post above all others continues to get hit after hit.  It’s my post: the lying, cheat jerk: https://thenerdymodel.wordpress.com/2012/04/27/the-lying-cheating-jerk/

I don’t know about you, but, I find this fact rather depressing.  That means there has to be an awful lot of iinfidelity going on in the world. 

As for my friend in the original post, she has since moved on from that creep, and, I do mean creep, and, has a wonderful career blossoming, more dates than she can accept, and, pretty much living a dream life.  As for the sorry piece of dirty she was so desperate to shake off, he’s still doing the same things…  Eating bad (with a serious heart problem and diabetes), sucking the rest of us dry by being on disability, and, apparently still thinking he’s a kid because all his photos are of theme parks and choo choo trains.  EESSSHHH.  This guy is now over 50.

And, yes ladies this cartoon is a close facsimile of “Fred”and I know you’re all DYING to get his contact information, but, I’m sorry, I will not allow another living sole be  stuck with this horrible, I mean, wonderful man.  Which leads back to the question.  How do these guys find us?  And more importantly don’t they own a mirror and have a conscious?  There is a solid reason that guys like this don’t get girls like me friend, and, all it takes is one good reality check.  The problem is… They never do!

Cigars

29 Jul

I’m not sure how many people are aware that smells can trigger memories, but, that is exactly what happened to me today.  I am not a smoker, in fact, no one in my family smokes except for my late Uncle Rick.  Anyhow, I was walking to work this morning and someone smoking a cigar passed by me.  And, that triggered the memory of my Uncle Rick.

new-classic-box_cigars_webI couldn’t tell you what brand the cigar was but I did know it smelled like the brand Uncle Rick always had, and, it wasn’t a bad memory, in fact, just the opposite.  Smelling that cigar got me thinking about the holidays and being at my Grandmother’s house helping her get Thanksgiving or Christmas Eve dinner ready.  The women in the kitchen, the men in the family room (usually with a football game blasting.)  And strangely enough that cigar smell gave me a warm fuzzy feeling of family and belonging.  Kind of nice when you’re living in a city like New York where people do not look you in the eye or apologize when they crash into you.

And even though I have no plans to start smoking cigars anytime soon, I am forever grateful that whoever passed me on the sidewalk today triggered that memory.  The only negative thing is…. I want to go home and cook a turkey dinner or make a pumpkin pie, and, given that’s it is July, and, putting the oven on heats up the entire apartment, I’ll have to find another outlet for myself.  Maybe I’ll even go out and buy a cigar and smoke it 😀

Nah! But, maybe Gary will!! 😀

We’re BOTH getting colds

27 Sep

Well, it started out to be a good day… Make that a GREAT day, but, as the day progressed I began not to feel so well.  My throat began to feel scratchy, then I got a headache, and, now I can’t stop sneezing.

Unfortunately, all my friends are sick and I’ve been running food and cold supplies to them, and, I think I am now catching it.  Strangely, when I got home, I found Gary on the sofa — unless he is sick he never just crashes there – and sure enough he’s not feeling well either.

So, now we’re both sneezing our heads off knowing the worst is yet to come.  And, instead of staying home and taking care, my hero husband went out to get us cold supplies and food knowing that tomorrow is going to be hell for us both.

Our friends have described this cold as more of a flu.  It hits hard and fast, and, it isn’t quick to leave.  Oh joy…. And, let me be perfectly clear, I do NOT blame my friends for this cold.  It happens.

I’d write more but I feel another sneezing fit coming on, and, I’m simply not up to writing any further.  I’m sure I”ll be writing again tomorrow, something tells me I’m going to be in store for a long, long, long weekend…

Gary is back. He just sneezed his way in the door…

The Nerdy Model Marries

30 Jun

Well, it’s official I am now married, and, have been for the past month.  Gary and I had a wonderful wedding and excellent reception in NYC.  And below you can finally see me in my wedding gown at The Plaza Hotel in New York City.  If you are a New Yorker or area resident, and, you have the budget I can whole-heatedly recommend The Plaza!

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Below is the our reception at The Plaza prior to the arrival of guests:

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And several things have changed since I last blogged.  Well, besides the oblivious of me getting married and taking my husband’s last name, I have stopped modeling, and, I am going into business with the girl who helped mentor me when I began modeling — Susan Flynn Doyle.   I not ready to make a big announcement of what we have in the works, but, you can rest assured it DOES revolve around fashion, and, a tiny niche market we feel is being overlooked, yet, still offers huge potential and growth.  Fingers are crossed.  We’ll be launching the business in the coming months.

And, yes, getting back to our wedding, it was wonderful.  My bridesmaids and matron of honor all looked stunning, and, I thank each and everyone of them for their time and devotion they gave to me and Gary.  They helped make a special day even more magical. 

Our honeymoon… Well, I’ll blog about that later when I have more time, and, when I have the photos uploaded, but, we spent two wonderful weeks in France and Italy.  It was perfect in every way.

Lastly, thank you to everyone who helped make our wedding so picture perfect!  It is truly appreciated and you all can expect rave reviews on your sites or LinkedIn from us shortly.

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